TRANSCRIPT: Hello everybody! This is Therese Castro, Angel Life Coach.
The message in this card is… What are your relationships teaching you? Reflect on the relationships that are most difficult for you right now. How are they helping you grow? I have a difficult relationship with E in my life right now. E has always been a commanding and authoritative presence in my life. I feel hindered by E, because E prevents me from saying what I really feel because he wouldn’t like it, and has been very critical of my choices. I feel burdened by having to go through to him because he is a dominant figure in my life. I am visualizing E now, like the two cats Moon and Mirror in this card. We are standing juxtaposed. I am taking some deep breaths to relax myself. I remind myself that this is just a visualization and he can’t hurt me from here.
Why do you have to have it your way all the time? Why couldn’t you support me as who I am? Why couldn’t I be valid around you?
I am realizing that it’s because of how this person grew up. He was treated this way and now he’s treating us this way. It’s the values instilled in him since birth.
That’s the surface level. But deeply, seeing him in front of me and remembering all the pain and isolation, I realize that I don’t need him to survive. I don’t need to survive on his validation. I don’t need him to approve of my choice to do spiritual work. I don’t need to continue his dream if I don’t want to. I don’t need to be in his shadow. I didn’t grow up just to be limited by someone and to hurt for all the things I never got from him.
This relationship with E is teaching me independence. Self-sufficiency. I don’t need to resent what I could never expect from him. He can’t limit me. Only what I believe can limit me can.
His presence in my life is to remind me that just because someone assumes a dominant role on my life doesn’t mean they control me. In the end, it’s me and what I believe and what I will do. I am powerful as I am because I have the power of choice.
You prevented me from making choices to teach me the paradoxical lesson that I can!
Thank you for that. Though it still hurts, I will keep this as a reminder.
Now for all of you, visualize the people who have caused a lot of pain in your life. What are they actually teaching you? What gift of empowerment is the struggle imparting to you?
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I love you and stand with you.
Angel Life Coach, Therese Castro.